The GUILT trip

Poor little girl..

How much she missed me..

I left her at the mercy of others..

Every one must have cared for her as per their comfort..

Will she be fed well? Will she be cared well??

She kept waiting for me untill she finally fell asleep..☹️

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Wondering whose words am I repeating..🤔🤔

oh yes, none other than a toddler’s Mother..🤱

And I am sure all the mother’s reading this might have heard themselves..

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And you know why??

because she was out of the city.. on a business meet.. for A DAY.. for less than 24 hrs..

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And who was the daughter left with?

With her father, her grand parents, her neighbour and her care taker..

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Then why this worry?

This is how Mother’s are everyone would say..

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Really?? is it???

Tell me..

What is that makes a mother’s love different from a father’s love??

isn’t she her father’s daughter too??

does her father love her any less??

does her father care less for her safety and well-being??

I don’t think so..

then what makes a Father’s role different than a mother’s role??🤔

Generating income and being the bread winner??

Nahhh…

both are working and financially stable in many places today!!

Here, what I see is deep rooted gender baised roles..

Don’t agree??

A man believes his duty is to serve and feed the other members of his family..

Since he is busy with the outdoor activities, the household responsibilities fall on to the lady.

So the lady of the house believes its her duty to look after the kids and family, care for them.

And the gender roles are defined right here..

Men – the bread winners

Women – the care takers

I am not saying this was wrong because it was the need of that time when the outdoor activities like humting, wood gathering needed physical strength that women lacked..

Just that the gender roles defined earlier are so deeply rooted in the human system that..

Considering herself as the care taker of the family, when a women is unable to give her time to her kids and family she thinks she has failed her duties and falls in the guilt trap for no reason, even though the child is taken care off in the best possible way!!

On the other hand, bread winning being the topmost duty of the guys, they do not fall in the guilt trap of not being there for their family 24/7 and failing their duties while on a business trip.🙂

Some DREAM, some SCREAM – yes, i am talking about MARRIAGE..

Not sure about other countries, but in India.. your marriage is discussed right from the day you are born…😅

So, many of us grow up with the idea of getting married as the key milestone to be achieved..

While some Boys dream of riding the horse to his Queen’s palace..

Some Girls dream of being the princess of the prince on the horse..

Then there are some who just don’t get this idea of marrying..

Some who just scream on hearing the word itself..

Well, every coin has two sides.

The funniest part are the reasons to get married..

1) Cause you have to settle down… you are not settled unless you are married and you have kids..

2) Cause you are growing old..

3) Cause your friends are getting married..

4) Cause how long can parents feed you..

5) Cause you may loose out on the best guys /girls if you delay..

6) Cause it will be difficult to have kids after 30..

7) Cause your parents are ill..

8) Cause it’s your grandmother’s last wish..

9) Cause what will people think..

10) Cause you have a degree, a job.. what’s next..

11) Cause a girl’s true home is her husband’s home..

12) Cause she wants to wear a designer lehenga..

13) Cause you are lonely..

14) Cause it gives you the licence to have sex..

15) Cause she/he is beautiful/handsome, rich and educated..

16) Cause this is the ultimate step towards happiness..

Really??? Is this what you should get married for???

No.. a big NO..

Marry when you are ready to get married..

Marry when you are ready to accept the changes..

Marry when you are ready to accept the responsibilities..

Marry when you find some one you want to spend your life with..

Marry when you find someone who understands and respects you..

Marry when you find someone who loves you..

Marry when you are ready to adjust..

Marry when you are ready to compromise sometimes..

Marry when you find a true companion..

Marry when you are able to treat each other equal in all respects..

Do not rush and complicate your life unless you are ready.. cause it is a big change..

Let them give any reason..

As it is said..

Listen to all, but follow only your heart. ❤️