The unspoken friendship 😊

Once or twice when I had rough time with my friends , I was like true friendship don’t exist now a days. Everyone leaves eventually. Everyone stays according to his/her needs and wish. All those negative stuffs kept building in me day by day. Not sure if its human nature or my nature to focus on things that are not working and ignoring that are on place, to run after people who are done with me leaving behind those who are making efforts to be with me..

Today..

today I want to write about ..

the friend who loves me since I was 10..

about the friend who broke when she couldn’t stand the distance of few meters that the teacher created cause of our nonstop talks..

about the friend who is never busy when I am sad..

about the friend who is all ears to my rants..

about the friend who scolds me for going with the flow..

about the friend who forces me to fight..

about the friend who helps me to come out of my shell..

about the friend who knows how stubborn I am and still loves me..

about the friend who was there when others left..

about the friend who trusted me when no one did..

about the friend who helped me get my lost friends back..

about the friend who teased me to death..

about the friend who knows me in and out..

about the friend who doesn’t let me feel low..

about the friend who always wants to see me smile..

about the friend who never let me go..

about the friend who knows nothing other than love..

about the friend who understands me more..

about the friend who is like my soul sister..

about the friend who made my life easy..

about the friend with whom I can cry..

about the friend who shares everything..

about the friend with whom I share everything..

about the friend with whom I am me..

about the friends who love me more than myself..

today I want to write about my friends and share the love I have received..

I know this post is not enough.. but just a small tribute to your love for me.. 😊

and I will not thank you for being with me as this is a small word for the love so big.. 😘

Is the phrase “Best friends forever” over used???

Almost every Indian child grew up hearing the great friendship story of Krishna and Sudama. Then “Friend” was the one who would go to extremes to help you in need, will be with you in happiness and sadness, who would know your state just by looking at you.

I would be wrong to say that such friendships don’t exist now. Sure they do. But slowly and eventually the emotion seem to fade away. Earlier we just had friends but now we have chat friends, hangout friends, hi bye friends, just friends, meme friends and not to forget best friends. Unlike old days, saying he/she is my friend is not enough , defining your friendship with a proper category has become the need to show the intensity of your emotions.

Frankly speaking, I am not against the social media or the way of living our generation people choose. It is just that most of us are forgetting the true meaning of relations, be it friendship or love or any other relationship. Running behind the idea of perfect friendship , some where in between we have lost the touch with the base.

In between tagging each other daily in memes and posting pictures with great captions we have stopped having heart to heart conversations..

In between using emojis to express, we have forgotten to express through actions and words..

In between our life struggle, we leave our friends aside at their own self..

In between the true feelings, we are just feeding the idea of friendship..

In between of being a real support , we are just adding “best” to “friends”..

Will they be not your friend if they do not tag you in memes..

Will they be not your friend if they don’t send you love emojis..

Will they be not your friend if they don’t post pics on social media on your birthdays..

Or

Are they your friend if they look at you and can’t make out that you are sad..

Are they your friend if they don’t know what’s eating you..

Are they your friend if they can’t go out of their way to make you smile..

Are they your friend if they are busy when you need them..

Are they your friend if they can’t trust you and share things with you..

Are they your friend if they don’t know what you are up to..

Are they your friend if they can’t handle you at your worst..

Are they your friend if they avoid you when they find some one new..

Are they your friend only on Facebook..

Please slow down a bit, take some time away from the reel world and work for true, deep and intense relations in the real world. This is what will make you happy and rich and successful ☺️

Not the only relation…

What comes to your mind on hearing the word “love”??

First relation to pop up is gf/bf or husband/wife..

Are these the only relations that make Justice to this emotion???

NO..

Then why most of the time of our precious life is utilized in the search of the better half or partner?

Why a girl and a boy seen together are always assumed to be dating???

Is the only aim of education and developing culinary skills to help you get a perfect, qualified partner????

Ask yourself,

Don’t your parents love you..

And how about your siblings???

Not to leave behind your friends..

And the neighbours who care for your favourite dishes and take care of you in your parents absence..

And your teachers who just want you to succeed..

Your pets????

Look around and you will realize that many care for you..☺️

Stop looking / chasing for love only in your partner..

Do not let a heart break be the end of your happy world..
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Never leave behind the people who love you and care for you while trying to impress your better half..

Remember,

Love never binds you.. it sets you free..

The more you love, the more you get love..

Look around.. love everyone… Happiness will never leave you ☺️☺️

We were “best friends”.. And we are “just friends”..

School:

We sat together..

We ate together..

We studied together..

And we were “best friends”..

She passed by me..

She ignored me..

She avoided me..

And we are “just friends”..

Junior college:

We talked..

We shared..

We laughed..

We cried..

And we were “best friends”..

She met him..

She was cool and i was fool..

She drifted away..

And we are “just friends”..

Graduation:

We bunked..

We ate junks..

We were the so called lesbians..

And we were “best friends”..

She did not trust..

She did not like my people..

She did not talk her heart out..

And we are “just friends”..

After graduation:

We prepared for interviews..

We roamed around..

We were the Goals people set..

And we were “best friends”..

He met some one new..

He forgot the old few..

He had his schedule fixed..

And we are “just friends”..

As true as it is said..

Everyone has “best friends” in all stages of life.. but lucky are those who have same “best friend” in all stages of life. ☺️😢

Line

I wish it would have been so simple as mathematics defines it.. but as this is a real life.. it has to be a lil complex..

Lets start like this..
Heard of something like this..
She cares for her daughter so much..they are together always.. they are really made for each other.. their relation is really going to the next level..
Or say..
These brother and sister duo can hardly be separated.. they always have each others back.. what is with them.. their relation is really going to the next level..
Or say..
The father and daughter have so deep understanding.. they are so supportive of each other.. their relation is really going to the next level..
Or say..
These two girls are like sisters.. always happy together.. nothing can break their trust for each other.. their relation is really going to the next level..
Or say..
You boys have and amazing bond.. always there for the other in happy sad times.. this relation is really going to the next level..
But you have definitely heard this..
They (girl and boy besties) look so cute together.. they care so much.. fight.. always together.. a lovely bond.. this relation is definitely going to the next level..

Looks like no kind of relationship has levels.. except the friendship between a girl and a boy..
Every one can go to the extremes without worrying about anything but somehow a girl and a boy can/may/should cross the line and go the next level of friendship that is love..

But friendship is the first step of love they say.. agreed..
Isn’t it true for siblings?? For parents???
Being friends is always good for any relation..

But you never say friendship is the first step to being parents or siblings.. or since you are good friends you can now move to the next level of being siblings or being parents..

The only question is why cannot we have a limitless friendship.. With no second level..
Why cannot friends stay just friends without being called lovers..though they care and love each other very much..
Why is it that we always keep looking for partners in friends.. yeah no harm in looking for a friend in your partner though..

Let the boundaries defining friendship fade..
Let the line of friendship, which when crossed turns to love , disappear.
Let love and friendship be two different , beautiful feelings..

Choice – is difficult

“TO BE OR NOT TO BE”

Sometime you really wish you had no choices.

Believe me choices are never easy..

Even choosing the right clothes to wear every morning seems difficult then how can we expect life to offer us easy choices..

What do you do when you have to make a difficult choice???

1) At first place everyone tries to avoid the situation that forces them to make a choice..

2) Ask your friends /family to make a choice for you..

3) worry too much about the consequences of the choice made..

4) Blame yourself/others/God for the consequences for putting you in such situation..

5) Overthinking and overanalyzing..

What you forget to do while making a choice???

1) Accept that life is not always easy..

2) Consider your priorities and happiness instead of asking others..

3) There is no point in worrying when the choice is based on your happiness..

4) Everyone is fighting their own battle, you are not alone. Blaming is just an excuse for the weak..

5) Thinking and analyzing is necessary but anything in excess is poisonous. Keep a check..

Whatever you choose will generate a new sequence of actions..

No decision is wrong..

The consequences that are against your don’t mean they are wrong..

Not everything you plan is foolproof..

Make the best out of the choices made..

Consider your happiness ,passion and dreams because nothing is worth if you are not happy.. ☺️

And nothing is wrong when you are happy.. ☺️

Kaira loves paa.. ❤️

Kaira and her father are two different personalities. Both love each other a lot but are indifferent. Both shy away from expressing love for each other. She knows that her father loves her very much but her father thinks she hates him because when opinions differ, she always reacts in a way that makes him feel so. She fails to make him understand what she feels and what she means. But KAIRA TOO LOVES HER DAD..

Her favourite childhood pic is the one that her dad got clicked in the studio for the first time..

Her favorite nick name is the one that her dad calls her however funny it sounds..

Her most valued pic is the first pic in which both were clicked together, although inches apart..

Her most valued gift is the red belt watch her father got for her..

Her best movie times are when her father accompanied..

Her favorite novel is the one that describes the unconditional love of a father and a daughter..

Her favorite routine is waking up to her fathers laughing sound..

Love stories do not make her cry but the scenes involving father daughter love do..

Kaira loves her paa as much as she loves her maa.. ❤️