Every day thoughts -2

Mauka

Diya hota ek mauka khuda ne agar zindagi badalneka..

tujhe ghar ek din pehele bula liya hota..

Diya hota ek mauka khuda ne agar zindagi badalneka..

Rok leti tujhe us khatre ke modh pe jane se..

Diya hota ek mauka khuda ne agar zindagi badalneka..

Badal deti us gaadi ka raasta jisne tujhe thoka..

Diya hota ek mauka khuda ne agar zindagi badalneka..

bhar deti saasein tujhme haspataal le jane se pehele..

Diya hota ek mauka khuda ne agar zindagi badalneka..

mita deti us pal ko jisne tujhe humse cheena.

Diya hota ek mauka khuda ne agar zindagi badalneka..

sauda kar khuda se apni zindagi ka, tujhe Maa ke paas chhod diya hota..

What to do??

Kissing and hugging her before leaving for office, after returning home, before going to bed is a routine for me. Pampering my mom is the favorite part of my day. Change in the routine only means I had a fight with her or she is out for some work, not in my vicinity.

I almost never leave for office without hugging her to which she would say go, leave for office, aren’t you getting late? Always wasting time in all this actions. Mom, every thing can wait for love, I don’t want a life where in I don’t have time to love you is what I say next. Almost every day we have this same conversation.

Mom, please come fast, I am getting late I said one day. I am not leaving without your hug. With a sad smile she asked who will hug me when you will leave after your marriage. Don’t get me habituated to all this love and pamperings. It will not let me live. Planting a small kiss on her cheeks I left.

Later that day I kept thinking:

Am I really making her weak?

Will my love really break her after I leave post marriage?

Shouldn’t we live life as it is our last day and express our feelings regularly?

Should I stop doing things that will make her life difficult after my marriage?

Any ways I won’t get much time to pamper her after my marriage, so why should I miss even a single day now?

Life is so short and unpredictable, how can I let her believe that she doesnot matter.

Will she be fine when I leave?

My life is meaningless without her and I want her to know that.

What gives me the right to make her suffer?

Obviously I don’t want her to be sad anytime.. and me being the reason for her sadness is totally unacceptable.

But that smile on her face when I hug and kiss her is priceless too..

What am I supposed to do??

Keep pampering her with the love she deserves without worrying about the future as life is short OR gradually reduce the pampering as they will break her when I will not be near 🤔

Please feel free to share your views and opinoins 😊

Letter to my Girl – Part 1

Watching you grow is a bliss my love,

you make me glow like a rainbow..

Love as pure as your’s is difficult to find..

In this rough world you manage to make others smile with your toothless smile..

And my tiny lil girl you will be through..

When life will be difficult to you..

just remember words few.. 😊

Dear Love,

The day you were born, not all were happy I know.. Many wished you were a boy as this is a male dominated society you will come to know..

But don’t be sad my lovely girl as there were some waiting for you right since you were inside her womb..

It makes me both sad and angry my love, but I am not sorry because you are born to fight..

This is the beginning, I warn you lil boss.. it is a long rough path that you have to cross..

Now they couldnot kill you in he womb..
neither can now they put you in the well of death..

So be ready to fight my love, because they will find a way to kill you anyhow..

By killing I don’t mean that they will stop your breath.. but they will not let you live like you would have dreamt..

I know you are a born fighter love.. but it will be a tough fight remember though..

In the mean time never let anyone snatch your smile.. 😘 And remember I am always by your side..

Lucky neighbors

Lucky are your neighbors

To watch you play.. any time of the day

To watch you smile.. while they talk to you for a while

I wish I could wake up hearing your cries and laughs.. daily

I wish I could wake up to your little legs hitting me.. daily

I wish I could doll you up.. daily

I wish I could play with you.. smile with you.. talk to you.. daily

I wish I could hug you on returning from work.. daily

I wish I could kiss you.. cuddle you.. pamper you.. daily

I wish I could hold your tiny hands.. daily

I wish I could watch you grow.. daily

I miss you so much my lil love..

That I wish I were your neighbor rather than your maasi..

😊😊😊

Dedicated to my lil niece.. 😘💕

Note : Maasi = Aunt

It’s Okay!!!!!!

It’s okay to smile…

It’s okay to cry…

It’s okay to laugh out loud…

It’s okay to be sad…

It’s okay to be in a group of 10…

It’s okay to be alone…

It’s okay to show your happiness…

It’s okay to be vulnerable…

It’s okay if you are in a relationship…

It’s okay if you had a heart break…

It’s okay if they agree..

It’s okay if they disagree…

It’s okay if they believe you…

It’s okay if they bitch about you…

It’s okay if you succeed…

It’s okay if you fail…

It’s okay if you need a break…

It’s okay if you are not sure…

It’s okay if you are powerless…

It’s okay if you need help…

It’s okay if you have desires…

It’s okay if you don’t compromise…

It’s okay if you are introvert…

It’s okay to be a extrovert…

It’s okay if they hate you…

Everything is okay…

…that helps you grow ☺️

Who belongs to the KITCHEN..

KITCHEN: A room used to prepare and cook food.

What is one of the basic necessities of life???

Food..

And who needs food???

All living beings..

What to do when you need something???

Create it or earn it..

Can food be earned???

I guess No..

Can food be cooked and made???

Sure, Yes..

Again..

So what to do when you want food???

Cook or go to a restaurant..

What is healthy and under budget???

Self cooking..

But who will cook food???

One who is hungry..

Whom does food belong to???

To the one who cooks it..

Where do we cook food???

In the kitchen..

Whom does kitchen belong to???

To the one who wants food..

Only women want food???

Obviously not..

So why the hell only women are associated to kitchen..

Why a women is expected to know cooking while it is fine if a guy doesn’t know to cook..

Cooking is necessary for survival irrespective of being men or a women…

Do not expect your women to cook different cuisines while you yourself cannot cook Maggi..

The DROWNING friend-SHIP

I miss you ,you say..

To see me, did you once go out of your way..

Don’t you trust me any more..

Less than what you broke when I did it to the core..

Everything will be normal, I am trying..

Just saying that will not stop the crying..

After you left, whom I talk to you wanna know..

But how I feel do you care to know..

About turning to strangers pics you share..

But other than that, efforts I see no where..

In my life, place you claim to own..

In the meantime, you forgot to share your own..

Don’t you want me back you ask..

Not if you consider it a task..

Why do you leave friendship that is so wanted..

Because you took my friendship for granted..

Arranged marriage..

..lie, fake what u are not, compromise on what you are just to get a yes from the socially acceptable “ideal match”

OR

..be yourself, discuss your likes and dislikes, passion and find your ideal match and be glad to get a no from the socially acceptable “ideal match” if that is not ideal for you

Choose wisely ☺️

Is the phrase “Best friends forever” over used???

Almost every Indian child grew up hearing the great friendship story of Krishna and Sudama. Then “Friend” was the one who would go to extremes to help you in need, will be with you in happiness and sadness, who would know your state just by looking at you.

I would be wrong to say that such friendships don’t exist now. Sure they do. But slowly and eventually the emotion seem to fade away. Earlier we just had friends but now we have chat friends, hangout friends, hi bye friends, just friends, meme friends and not to forget best friends. Unlike old days, saying he/she is my friend is not enough , defining your friendship with a proper category has become the need to show the intensity of your emotions.

Frankly speaking, I am not against the social media or the way of living our generation people choose. It is just that most of us are forgetting the true meaning of relations, be it friendship or love or any other relationship. Running behind the idea of perfect friendship , some where in between we have lost the touch with the base.

In between tagging each other daily in memes and posting pictures with great captions we have stopped having heart to heart conversations..

In between using emojis to express, we have forgotten to express through actions and words..

In between our life struggle, we leave our friends aside at their own self..

In between the true feelings, we are just feeding the idea of friendship..

In between of being a real support , we are just adding “best” to “friends”..

Will they be not your friend if they do not tag you in memes..

Will they be not your friend if they don’t send you love emojis..

Will they be not your friend if they don’t post pics on social media on your birthdays..

Or

Are they your friend if they look at you and can’t make out that you are sad..

Are they your friend if they don’t know what’s eating you..

Are they your friend if they can’t go out of their way to make you smile..

Are they your friend if they are busy when you need them..

Are they your friend if they can’t trust you and share things with you..

Are they your friend if they don’t know what you are up to..

Are they your friend if they can’t handle you at your worst..

Are they your friend if they avoid you when they find some one new..

Are they your friend only on Facebook..

Please slow down a bit, take some time away from the reel world and work for true, deep and intense relations in the real world. This is what will make you happy and rich and successful ☺️

Marriage : new age game of loosing and winning

They say..

Marriages don’t work now a days..

People marry and leave whenever they want..

No one thinks of anything beyond themselves, of the family, everyone has become selfish and self centered..

Marriage has now become a game for them..

And guess who is to blame..

Yes, the foreign culture..

But this is not shocking..

You know why??

Cause it has always been human tendency to blame others for their own mistakes..

Blaming is always easier than taking the responsibility and working on the issue..

Why feel the guilt when you can easily pass it on to others..

Let us take some time and understand the root cause that is being ignored..

While my friend was about to get married.. he was going for arranged marriage and his parents were busy looking for a suitable and so called ideal wife for him..

Whenever a family was about to visit them.. he was given a series of instructions..

..do not talk much

..get yourself cleaned up, you should look attractive

..remove all your pictures from fb, they must see only the right images

..don’t let them know that you have so and so friends

..don’t let them know your bad habits

..do this and do that

..hide this and hide that

Their main objective was to lure the girl and the family by displaying him as an ideal boy instead of his true self..

They must not reject because of so and so reason so just behave proper at that moment and get her to marry you..

And so the problems begin..

They faked when they were supposed to be true to each other and decide if they can really get along..

They get married..

And now staying together seems difficult because the ideal boy/girl has disappeared and they have to face the real nature..

Fights and fights and no happiness..

What do you expect then??

To continue with the unhappy life??

Why???

Why could you not be true in the first place and get in the relationship only if you think you can be happy together..

Why are you so compelled by the society that you ignore your happiness..

Why do you have to maintain an ideal image..

Be true.. be open from the beginning.. spend some time together before saying yes.. do not let he peer pressure take on you.. do not let the society choose for you..

And then see how many marriages work.. ☺️

And then see if the foreign culture is to blame..☺️

You can read my article some-dream-some-scream-yes-i-am-talking-about-marriage to know what is the right time to get married..

Do not be so ADJUSTING

I still remember once in school I didn’t feel like going down to play during the hour dedicated for playing and I stayed in the classroom. After some time my class teacher entered and asked me what I was doing in the classroom during that hour. All I could say was I have to complete some notes. Right at that moment she snapped at me and left the room saying don’t be so adjusting which left me motionless. I couldn’t make out why did she say that..what did she mean and what made her angry. Being a school girl the best reason I satisfied myself with was that she must not like me..

Slowly as and when I grew up I came across different types of people..

Those with whom I agree and those with whom I don’t..

Those who inspire me and those who don’t..

Those whom I respect and those whom I don’t..

Also I met few who would just do things cause others want it that way..

One said I will do whatever you wish on being asked if she would like to study or work after marriage..

One said I want to go for short hair but I can’t cause he loves them and he doesn’t want me to have them cut..

One said I don’t go out much with my wife cause my parents feel lonely..

One said I can’t talk to my friends much cause she gets jealous..

Frankly speaking, it made me angry..

Why adjust so much.. why things have to be decided on others preferences.. when will they take a stand for themselves.. I would think..

Then my teacher’s words made some sense to me.. may be that day she thought that for some silly work I am giving up my hour of recreation.. I am making some kind of adjustment which is not needed.. I could have enjoyed that hour and completed my work some other time of the day..

Adjustments are necessary.. no doubt.. but the limit has to be set by you.. It should not happen that you adjust even for the silly little things coming your way and then one day you are done with it.. no more adjustments you would say.. not even when adjustment is truly needed.. 🙂

Would love to know your views on this..☺️

Trouble with a capital T

“You don’t know what we are going through..how stressed we are” they kept saying.. it made me cringe.

Why can’t they just accept things as they are..why they have to worry about every single thing.. everything will fall into place eventually.. what difference would their worry make.. I used to think and leave..

Wait.. wanna know the biggest troubles of my life??? I am sure you will laugh and say how contradictory I am cause they are

1) my parents wanting to get me married off.

2) not being able to visit the places I dream about

Yes, talking all sense above and rubbish now you might feel. And why not, the things that worry me are not yet in action.. still they are the biggest troubles if my life.

Trust me, I feel the same some times.

Sometimes when I read a book that show me the real sufferings, real loss, real troubles, the other side of the happy world I live in.

I knew my troubles were small when a mother gave birth to a still child..

I knew my troubles were small when they had food only for dinner..

I knew my troubles were small when they slept on the pavement and rain came down..

I knew my troubles were small when they were fighting with the disease..

I knew my troubles were small when they were depressed and were suicidal..

I knew my troubles were small when they fight for my safety..

I knew my troubles were small when I drink clean and pure water..

I knew my troubles were small when I focused on my wishes, needs being already fulfilled..

I knew my troubles were small when I looked at the world outside my life..

I knew my troubles were small with my loved ones by my side.. 🙂

Troubles are a part of our life and all that matters is our attitude.

Are you clear with your basics???

Just as I was teaching my little brother some mathematics I heard myself saying get your basics cleared first.. right then the inner me redirected the same question to me.. Are you clear with your basics of humanity??

Though not a philosophy expert , every individual has some connection to it, some self believed theories, some philosophical touch in life..

Like wise, that question got the philosopher in me to work and I started analyzing me and my society for the basic human values.

To start with, love is the basic human quality which all,including myself claim to have in abundance.. and everyone thinks that no one can love better than me, no one understands love better than me.. but is it so??🤔

Where is the love when countries fight for political ,economic reasons?? Can’t we just be happy with what we have and if not then work on improving ourselves rather than destroying other’s life..

Where is the love when people of the same country fight for religion or caste?? Can’t we just accept everyone as human beings and share love irrespective of the topological and other irrelevant differences..

Where is the love when you deny to accept the partner your daughter/son choose for themselves because of the fear of being judged by the society..

Where is the love when you fight with your relatives/friends for money matters or for the so called status..

Then comes mercy, which is a bit lost too now a days..

The increasing crime rate sums up this.. just to show their power one forgets that the one in front of them are living beings too.. sad but true..

Then talking about gratitude..

Forget about being grateful to God when most of us easily forget those who help us in our need and help us prosper..

And this way list can go on but I would like to stop here and know your views on this 🙂

Permission denied 😐

Young me always had to ask permission from my parents for things I wished to do, places I wanted to visit.. but the thought of asking permission from your partner once you are married sounds bizarre..

Talking about the situations I have come across where in one seeks their partner’s approval even for the day to day things in life makes me re-think about the true meaning of marriage..

For me marriage, like any other relationship should be the bond that gives you strength to live your life the way you dream it.. not the one in which you feel entangled and your dreams die suffocating.

PS : discussing and informing differs from permission.. discussing your views with your partner and informing about your whereabouts is healthy.. asking permission is not..

I wonder why she needs permission to stay a little longer at her parent’s home. Does he follow the same??

I wonder why she needs permission from the mother/father in law to go on a trip with her parents..

I wonder why she needs permission to go on a dinner with a friend or to stay late to attend office party..

One should not need permission to watch a movie..

One should not need permission to take his/her kid out on a trip..

One should not need permission to focus om career..

One should not need permission to keep in touch with friends..

One should not need permission to follow the latest fashion..

One should not need permission to live life as per their wish..

One should not need permission for anything as they are grownups and have the ability to think and make proper decisions..

Marriage doesn’t give you the power to control.. it should give you the power to discuss and share..

Look for a companion and not a slave.

Please feel free to share your views 🙂

Not the only relation…

What comes to your mind on hearing the word “love”??

First relation to pop up is gf/bf or husband/wife..

Are these the only relations that make Justice to this emotion???

NO..

Then why most of the time of our precious life is utilized in the search of the better half or partner?

Why a girl and a boy seen together are always assumed to be dating???

Is the only aim of education and developing culinary skills to help you get a perfect, qualified partner????

Ask yourself,

Don’t your parents love you..

And how about your siblings???

Not to leave behind your friends..

And the neighbours who care for your favourite dishes and take care of you in your parents absence..

And your teachers who just want you to succeed..

Your pets????

Look around and you will realize that many care for you..☺️

Stop looking / chasing for love only in your partner..

Do not let a heart break be the end of your happy world..
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Never leave behind the people who love you and care for you while trying to impress your better half..

Remember,

Love never binds you.. it sets you free..

The more you love, the more you get love..

Look around.. love everyone… Happiness will never leave you ☺️☺️

How beautiful are you ??

And finally on that day they brought her out of the OT an hour after she was born, while everyone was waiting desperately to see the most innocent, lovely and beautiful creation in the world.. yes, the outcome of love.. the little life with tiny hands and cute little nose..

She was indeed beautiful.. ❤️infact, the most beautiful person in my society..

Let me describe her beauty..

Her little brain understands nothing other than the language of love..

Her little fingers hold ours so tight as if she never wants to let us go..

Her heart knows nothing other than love..

Her little eyes can see nothing, nose can smell nothing, mouth can speak nothing, ears can hear nothing..

She is just a pure little soul full of love and completely aloof of the impurities of the world..

What else can be more beautiful than this?? Nothing i would say.. ☺️

But then reality hit me and questioned my beliefs..

When I heard someone ask how come she is so dark when her parents are so white..

When I heard them say she will turn beautiful and white as she grows up..

When I heard them say that it is important for a girl to look beautiful..

When I heard them say she is beautiful just like my brother..

When I heard them say she has a fat nose that has to be fixed..

When I heard them say she has small eyes..

Only thing I realized later was.. this is all that defines beauty in my society and in the world I live in..

Beauty has nothing to do with the nature, emotions, sensitivity and love ,but it is all about looks in the world I live in..

And all these things left me with one question unanswered..

How beautiful are you to the little baby just out in your world who is being judged by you based on her looks when all that mattered in her world was love ???

We were “best friends”.. And we are “just friends”..

School:

We sat together..

We ate together..

We studied together..

And we were “best friends”..

She passed by me..

She ignored me..

She avoided me..

And we are “just friends”..

Junior college:

We talked..

We shared..

We laughed..

We cried..

And we were “best friends”..

She met him..

She was cool and i was fool..

She drifted away..

And we are “just friends”..

Graduation:

We bunked..

We ate junks..

We were the so called lesbians..

And we were “best friends”..

She did not trust..

She did not like my people..

She did not talk her heart out..

And we are “just friends”..

After graduation:

We prepared for interviews..

We roamed around..

We were the Goals people set..

And we were “best friends”..

He met some one new..

He forgot the old few..

He had his schedule fixed..

And we are “just friends”..

As true as it is said..

Everyone has “best friends” in all stages of life.. but lucky are those who have same “best friend” in all stages of life. ☺️😢

Line

I wish it would have been so simple as mathematics defines it.. but as this is a real life.. it has to be a lil complex..

Lets start like this..
Heard of something like this..
She cares for her daughter so much..they are together always.. they are really made for each other.. their relation is really going to the next level..
Or say..
These brother and sister duo can hardly be separated.. they always have each others back.. what is with them.. their relation is really going to the next level..
Or say..
The father and daughter have so deep understanding.. they are so supportive of each other.. their relation is really going to the next level..
Or say..
These two girls are like sisters.. always happy together.. nothing can break their trust for each other.. their relation is really going to the next level..
Or say..
You boys have and amazing bond.. always there for the other in happy sad times.. this relation is really going to the next level..
But you have definitely heard this..
They (girl and boy besties) look so cute together.. they care so much.. fight.. always together.. a lovely bond.. this relation is definitely going to the next level..

Looks like no kind of relationship has levels.. except the friendship between a girl and a boy..
Every one can go to the extremes without worrying about anything but somehow a girl and a boy can/may/should cross the line and go the next level of friendship that is love..

But friendship is the first step of love they say.. agreed..
Isn’t it true for siblings?? For parents???
Being friends is always good for any relation..

But you never say friendship is the first step to being parents or siblings.. or since you are good friends you can now move to the next level of being siblings or being parents..

The only question is why cannot we have a limitless friendship.. With no second level..
Why cannot friends stay just friends without being called lovers..though they care and love each other very much..
Why is it that we always keep looking for partners in friends.. yeah no harm in looking for a friend in your partner though..

Let the boundaries defining friendship fade..
Let the line of friendship, which when crossed turns to love , disappear.
Let love and friendship be two different , beautiful feelings..

Some DREAM, some SCREAM – yes, i am talking about MARRIAGE..

Not sure about other countries, but in India.. your marriage is discussed right from the day you are born…😅

So, many of us grow up with the idea of getting married as the key milestone to be achieved..

While some Boys dream of riding the horse to his Queen’s palace..

Some Girls dream of being the princess of the prince on the horse..

Then there are some who just don’t get this idea of marrying..

Some who just scream on hearing the word itself..

Well, every coin has two sides.

The funniest part are the reasons to get married..

1) Cause you have to settle down… you are not settled unless you are married and you have kids..

2) Cause you are growing old..

3) Cause your friends are getting married..

4) Cause how long can parents feed you..

5) Cause you may loose out on the best guys /girls if you delay..

6) Cause it will be difficult to have kids after 30..

7) Cause your parents are ill..

8) Cause it’s your grandmother’s last wish..

9) Cause what will people think..

10) Cause you have a degree, a job.. what’s next..

11) Cause a girl’s true home is her husband’s home..

12) Cause she wants to wear a designer lehenga..

13) Cause you are lonely..

14) Cause it gives you the licence to have sex..

15) Cause she/he is beautiful/handsome, rich and educated..

16) Cause this is the ultimate step towards happiness..

Really??? Is this what you should get married for???

No.. a big NO..

Marry when you are ready to get married..

Marry when you are ready to accept the changes..

Marry when you are ready to accept the responsibilities..

Marry when you find some one you want to spend your life with..

Marry when you find someone who understands and respects you..

Marry when you find someone who loves you..

Marry when you are ready to adjust..

Marry when you are ready to compromise sometimes..

Marry when you find a true companion..

Marry when you are able to treat each other equal in all respects..

Do not rush and complicate your life unless you are ready.. cause it is a big change..

Let them give any reason..

As it is said..

Listen to all, but follow only your heart. ❤️

Are you really Worshiping????

Worship : expression of reverence and adoration for God as the dictionary says.

Whom do you worship?? GOD..

Why?? Cause we admire Him, fear Him..

Why?? Cause we think He is superior, He is powerful..

How to express adoration and reverence??

1) Think of God.. Say thank you..

2) Arrange Pooja’s and prayers to thank him..

3) Kill an animal and gift Him its blood..

4) Feed the Pandits and Poojaris as they are the meditators of God..

5) Feed the underprivileged who are hungry since days..

Do all methods of expression make sense??

Lets go in order..

Think of God as your friend.. someone who helped you in difficult times.. through thick and thin..

What do we do when someone helps us in need, motivates us?

We want to thank them in any possible way..

Is saying thank you enough?

Not really, we want to be of use to them too..

How can you be of use to someone who has everything.. who needs nothing..

May be, we can at least let them know that we care and their help is appreciated and we can do anything that can add to their happiness..

Like what can add up to His happiness?

Daily prayers?

Really?? Would you be happy if the friend you helped keeps on writing your glory poems day in and day out?? Won’t you be satisfied with a single thank you??

Then how about offering Him dead animals blood??

I hope He will definitely not approve of his own creation be killed or destroyed.. how absurd is that.. have you ever thought of gifting a mother her own childs blood?? Who likes seeing blood?? If you still think that blood might make Him happy then is He really worth admiration?? If blood can’t make you happy then how can it make Him happy??

If not blood then how about feeding His messengers??

Do they really need your food? They are the one who can earn and are living a standard life with all the basic needs being fulfilled. No harm in feeding them but does this give you the satisfaction? They might be the mediators but they do not need your help.. and working where there is no need is waste of energy..

Then what?? Will feeding the poor and needy people make him happy??

Now we make a point. Imagine a mother’s happiness on seeing her hungry child being fed. Your food will be valued more by them. When you feed those who were not fed by Him, He will be really really happy.

I do not ask you to feed the poor every now and then.. even if you can make a single person smile , He will be happy and your gratitude will be accepted for sure.

Worshiping doesn’t only mean praying..

Worshiping has to come from heart..

And yes,

WORSHIPING HAS NO CONNECTION WITH YOUR RELIGION.

Choice – is difficult

“TO BE OR NOT TO BE”

Sometime you really wish you had no choices.

Believe me choices are never easy..

Even choosing the right clothes to wear every morning seems difficult then how can we expect life to offer us easy choices..

What do you do when you have to make a difficult choice???

1) At first place everyone tries to avoid the situation that forces them to make a choice..

2) Ask your friends /family to make a choice for you..

3) worry too much about the consequences of the choice made..

4) Blame yourself/others/God for the consequences for putting you in such situation..

5) Overthinking and overanalyzing..

What you forget to do while making a choice???

1) Accept that life is not always easy..

2) Consider your priorities and happiness instead of asking others..

3) There is no point in worrying when the choice is based on your happiness..

4) Everyone is fighting their own battle, you are not alone. Blaming is just an excuse for the weak..

5) Thinking and analyzing is necessary but anything in excess is poisonous. Keep a check..

Whatever you choose will generate a new sequence of actions..

No decision is wrong..

The consequences that are against your don’t mean they are wrong..

Not everything you plan is foolproof..

Make the best out of the choices made..

Consider your happiness ,passion and dreams because nothing is worth if you are not happy.. ☺️

And nothing is wrong when you are happy.. ☺️

Something else is killing him More than alcohol

He was all lost..

All wasted..

For the first time he touched alcohol..

No, actually he drank it like an energy drink..

He was tipsy..

With blurry speech..

He reached home..

How do you think his family reacted?????

Yes, the general approach..

They scolded him..

Called him a shame to the family..

Stopped talking to him..

Told him they would better die than see him wasted..

Asked him to leave the house..

Asked him to stay with those whom he enjoyed the drinks..

Stopped giving him pocket money..

And what not..

Nobody asked him what made him drink😞

May be something is worrying him..

May be he is disturbed..

May be he has some issues at work..

May be he has had a fight with his friend/girl friend/family..

May be he is in losses..

There is something that is out of his control..

There is something he is tired of..

There is something he is done trying for..

There is something that has sucked up all his energy..

There is something he wants to get rid of..

There is something he is trying to forget..

And the easiest available thing he falls for is alcohol.. although a temporary relief..

Had any of you been supportive, he wouldn’t have needed alcohol

Had any of you been so close to him to discuss the issues, he wouldn’t have needed alcohol

Had any of you been understanding, he wouldn’t have needed alcohol

Had any of you been accepting him, he wouldn’t have needed alcohol

Had any of you been helping him to achieve his dreams, he wouldn’t have needed alcohol

Had he been happy and not frustrated, he wouldn’t have needed alcohol

Talk it out, support him, listen to him, understand him, accept him before it is too late.. do not just scold him, control him,compare him.

Remember something might kill him faster than the alcohol.. ☺️

A hope to be Respected, Acknowledged and Accepted

She does what she is expected to do without a single question..

She follows all your orders without complain..

She takes care of all the work before anyone asks..

She keeps your happiness first cause she loves you..

She cares for your pride more than anyone else..

She keeps her hobbies away cause she has no spare time left..

She does everything to keep the surroundings happy ,healthy and peaceful..

Why???

Just in a hope that some day world will respect her for what she is, acknowledge her dedication and accept her for who she is..

She is not weak.. she is not helpless.. she is not your slave.. you do not own her.. do not take her for granted.. she is doing all these cause she wants to do it.. cause she loves you.. not cause she fears you..

Do not say she is doing it cause she has to do it.. cause she was born to do it.. cause she made a mistake.. cause she is a girl and it is her duty..

Do not discourage her..

She has some dreams too.. some small wishes too.. she has a dream life too.. she wants to live too..

Let her live her life in her own way.. do not try to control her..

She deserves to be loved.. to be respected and to be accepted.. ☺️

PS : To all those men and women who think they own their daughters, wife, sisters, mothers and girlfriends or female friends..